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Grace & Mercy

“It is by grace you have been saved through faith

and this is not from yourselves It is the gift of God not by works so that no one can boast”

Ephesians 2: 8-9

Grace is a nonperformance based relationship; it is the free and unmerited favor of God.

Grace is a gift from God to us because he loves us.

Mercy is similar to grace it is not getting what we deserve.

It is compassion or forgiveness shown toward someone whom it is one’s power to punish or harm

“He saved us not because of righteous things we had done, but because of his mercy. He saved us through the washing of rebirth and renewal by the Holy Spirit.” Titus 3:5

Mercy and Grace is what God bestows upon us and as his children we should be willing to do the same for others.

The best place to start would be within our families. Grace and mercy should be something we shower our children and spouse with… and the rest of our family members for that matter.

As I have been studying marriage in preparation for my own, I have learned that we cannot base the love we have for our spouse on what they do. Performance based love puts us in bondage and creates unrealistic expectations for a marriage, that neither spouse can live up to. We should instead practice showing grace and mercy to our spouse just as God did for us.